Wednesday, September 19, 2007
Find your mate today!
Dear dating web-site owners who make overly optimistic claims about "finding the one":
Please be realistic when posting photos of the "potential mates" in your database. As in most other areas of life, the attractiveness of men and women follows a bell curve and I am going to hazard a guess that if someone has entered themselves into your meat-market database then there is a reasonable chance that the person falls toward the middle or lower half of said bell curve. As a member of the undesired region of the curve (read: somewhat ugly person) I think it is only fair that you set expectations realistically. Moreover, I ask that you not encourage people to think only in terms of visual appeal, at the expense of all other qualities. It is those other qualities such as personality, sense of humor, and honesty which I would argue are far more important in a long-term relationship than looks alone.
If I were looking to join a dating service I would be persuaded more by an honest picture of a real, down-to-earth person even with (heaven forbid) some visual flaws than by the picture of a model.
When marrying, ask yourself this question:
'Do you believe that you will be able to converse well with
this person into your old age?'
Everything else in marriage is transitory.
Thanks in advance,